Chapter 10 Q1

1). Going back to Chapter 10, answer the following question:  Do an internet search using the terms forgiveness, reconciliation, and revenge.  What kids of sites do you find?  Which term produces more results?  Why do you think that is?

When I looked up the word forgiveness on google it brought me about 56,000,000 results. The results were all very broad as well ranging from videos to loan forgiveness. I thought that I might find a lot more results on how to forgive or lessons regarding that, but I was surprised to see what I found. There were quotes, lyrics, songs, etc. I was also surprised to find a lot of positive results on forgiveness. From the few pages that I looked through there were any negative results.

When looking up reconciliation I found 52,400,00 results. I am not surprised to find less results than forgiveness because I feel like a lot of people affiliate reconciliation with religion and not everyone has a faith or believes in this. I was not surprised to find mostly all results having to do with religion or churches. 

The last search I did was on revenge. This brought up about 264,000,000 results, which over powers both of the previous searches I did. I think that this topic had a lot more results because a) It had a show/tv tittled revenge and b) because people believe more in this than anything else. The first few search pages all had to do with the movie/tv show, but pages after that included actual revenge as we know it. 

Chapter 12, Q3

When I first started reading this chapter I was instantly attracted with the first theory that introduced, psychodymanic theory. This is a theory that says that "people experience conflict because of their interpersonal (internal, psychological, emotional, mental) states". These types of conflict are ones that can happen over overblown conflict where a situation receive more attention that it really needs. I was automatically attracted to this because I experience situations on a weekly basis with my boyfriend where we give situations more attention than it needs. We make big deals over things that actually don't really matter at all. I also might label these as misplaced conflict. This is where we argue about issues other than the ones at the heart of the conflict. I feel as if we give bigger attention to smaller situations because we are not actually identifying what is really wrong. For instance, I might get really mad at him because I feel like we don't spend that much time anymore, but instead of bringing that to his attention I will blow up over him leaving his dirty clothes on the floor. I will try to repress my feelings, which is a defense mechanism that occurs when we try not to think about our situations, and let it go but I wind up blowing up over the something non important or relevant. Leaving his clothes on the floor is something that is not a big deal to me, but because I am mad about something else that is bigger but don't want to tell him about it  I will blow up over something non important.