To me there is a huge difference between punishment and discipline. I think that the way I was raised makes me have such a strong feeling about this topic. From my point of view I believe that discipline is the way of teaching your children or another person what is right from wrong. From a parents stand point this is teaching your children how to act or practically do anything on a day to day basis. Children do certain things or act a certain way because of the discipline that their parents have put on them since they were little. Parents sometimes use punishment to help a child understand what they did wrong. To me punishment is what the child has to do or go through to help them understand what they did and why it was not right.
When I was younger my parents were fairly strict in teaching me right from wrong. They taught me not to use bad words, to use my manners, to show respect to my elders, so on and so forth. But the unique thing about my situation is that the punishment that I went through when I did something wrong was never abusive. I was never hit or slapped like I have heard parents have done before. Some people think its impossible for a child to learn anything without using that kind of punishment, but I differ. The punishments that I got for the things I did wrong were very specific to that action. This lead me to not learn violence or fear, but rather what I was doing wrong was in fact wrong.
I think that a lot of parents over step their parental authority when they are very angry and upset and not clear on how to communicate their feelings. If you think about it violence, hitting your child, is not the answer. I believe that its not teaching them anything productive. If parents were able to channel their emotions in a more clear and understanding way then the child would learn a lot more effectively.
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