Trust is probably one of the most important things to me in any relationship that I have. No matter whether it is with friends, family, or my significant other, trust is needed for any relationship to be successful. If you are not able to put your trust in someone else then I don't think you have much of anything to rely on at all. You are always going to think the other person is doing wrong by you or not working with you but rather against you. Of course there are times when people don't follow through with what you thought or what they said which makes you loose your trust in them.
I have been through may situations where I lost trust in someone. One incident that I can remember is when my best friend started dated one of my ex boyfriends. If you are a girl you know that is a rule in which you don't break, well at least I thought every girl knew. I felt beyond betrayed because she never even cared to bring it up to me and ask me if I was ok with it. It wasn't until she seen that I was really upset did she actually want to talk about it.
I did not talk to her for several months, but after going through a retreat where we confronted issues we had been dealing with I decided that it wasn't worth it for me to hold the grudge. It was coming down to the end of our senior year in high school and I didn't care anymore. I know that this is only a certain situation where I could ACTUALLY get over trust I had lost from someone, but I learned that you have to figure out situations that are worth it and others that are not.
I agree with you that trust is the most important in any relationship whether it be in a professional environment or with family and friends. I have a sister who is 12, and she is starting to rebel like most teenagers do and my parents have repeadtely told her that she cant earn the freedom she wants until they trust her. I think that when you trust someone it opens up the door to all other forms of communication. Otherwise, you just see and ask whats on the surface but when you trust someone you are able to dig deeper and find out more about them and feel safe around them and in the end it makes your relationship stronger. I am sorry to hear about your bestfriend situation, but in high school I think we all made those silly mistakes. I have always told myself, that you live and you learn. I have been one to give people second chances, because I feel that some people do learn from their mistakes and in the end makes them a stronger person. This isn’t true in all cases but some
ReplyDeleteHey Michele,
ReplyDeleteReading your story seemed to be very relateable in many different ways. I have never had a friend actually date my ex like you did, but I've had people go against my assumed standards and through that hurt me and the trust I had in them. I agree that relationships are full of ups and downs and some of them are worth working through a 'rough patch' like this where others you may decide simply are not worth it. I think that is a difficult situation when it comes down to it and that if you want you could probably work through anything if both parties are willing, but that's not always the case. It is difficult to see long term relationships fall apart over seemingly silly things - but it happens all of the time. Trust is difficult, but totally worth it in every meaningful relationship.
Anyways, thanks for posting - Kenzie Marie