An idea in the chapter that I found really interesting is where they talk about the topic of competition. Competition is where people or parties are positioned against each other with the out come of a win or lose situation. Sometimes competition can be healthy and people are able to grow and be better because they are working against each other, but there are also times when people take it too seriously and create chaos and drama. Competition is usually seen on a win or lose basis meaning that at the end one person will have the upper hand against another. This can be in an argument, a sports game, or really anything as a matter of fact. Having competition where one person wins and one person loses can cause problems around the whole situation in general.
One example that I can think of where something like this occurred in my life is the arguments that I get into with my boyfriend. It's not like we are competing for anything, but when it comes to fighting there always has to be a winner and loser. I hate it because sometimes we are not even fighting about important, but it always comes back to fighting about something personal. Especially when we are out or around other people it just leads to an unpleasant environment to be around.
Reading your posting and your example about unnecessary competition between you and your boyfriend reminded me of something similar that is relevant in my own life right now. I have a three-year-old daughter who recently started taking dance lessons because she loves to dance. I wanted to be a supportive parent (even though I really have no background in dance) and allow her to explore her interests so I signed her up for a recurring class. Since she has started dancing at this particular studio, I have been amazed by how competitive the mothers are with each other. They use their children as pawns to compete with one another and quite frankly, it is all very dramatic and unpleasant. It would be great if we could put all of those types of people in a class like this (haha).
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